simple lesson about life and change

Plum blossoms exists for a limited time in nature, it teaches a lesson about change. Everything comes and goes.

Arises and then falls. Nothing is lasts forever, but instead of being feared, this changing nature of everything can be seen as beautiful.

The plum blossom is more beautiful because it is impermanent. You enjoy it more because it won't be forever. Each moment of life is more beautiful because it doesn't last. Your better half, your child, your mother, and father, your friends... they won't last forever, and so each moment with them is more precious and important.

The basic truth of life is impermanence, and if we accept it that, we can find lasting peace with all changes.

Any change can happen at any time, You can fail at habit, or get injured or sick, or loose a loved one, lose a job, or hear a song that moves you, or find true love.

I've learned to embrace this change and impermanence as beautiful. Growth isn't possible without change, because growth is change. Without change, the blossom wouldn't have grown, and neither would the tree have grown from a seed. The seed would stay in cold, unchanging ground if change weren't the defining characteristic of life.

We lose loved ones, but they wouldn't have become our loved ones in first place if it weren't for change. Love wouldn't be possible without change, because a relationship grows int love by changing.

Change is beautiful. Change is growth. Change makes lovable.

By embracing change and impermanence, we find peace. Think of all the things that upset our peace of mind; feeling of irritation, grief over loss of a loved one, a difficult situation, worry about upcoming meeting, trouble in relationship. These are all just passing clouds, not permanent but temporary ones.

Necessary to change then change is necessary. We can't be same all time to questions of life. We have to change our techniques, approach to answer the problems. Where “necessity is mother of invention”, we should try to reinvent, adopt to ever changing situations of life.

Remember one thing we can't make all changes at one time. Make one change at a time. If try to tackle all at once you will fail and then you don't go back to embrace the change. Here a simple lesson that we can learn from a small child what it does “One small step at a time” try to tackle one change at a time. Chances are more get it done when it is one at a time.

Make a change for good and be a change for good. When you make a change you have great chance learn about yourself. Things are not bettered, but we are bettered, by making changes in them.

Why to fear of death, one day or other day we have to leave this world. If we accept and appreciate this basic truth then the fear will be gone far away from us.

 

Life is constantly flowing stream, always changing floating by as- and we can't try to grasp at the passing water. You can't be attached to one particular drop of water that's flowing downstream, because it will be gone soon.

How to make a change

1. See why? : See why to make change? Only we know why to make a change. But still we ignore to change when things got hard. We behave as if we are not facing any difficulties in life. See the why change is necessary. We are not making up a move to change. Everybody has their own sufferings but we are not facing it but we are ignoring to change.
   
   
2. Find a way : find a strong reason to change, it should be a big motivation which drives you from to make change. Even if we fail to change it should move you forward to try again and again. Some where along the line of life I gave up, I just ignored the her who loved me more than herself because I don't want her to be with a looser. But she never gave up on me and more over she faced many difficulties in her life yet she smiles and she said “ I trust you so much and you only do good for me”. And “I promised her that no matter what happens I won't break her trust”. I won't take her name not to revel her identity. This was a big motivation in my life to make change. This was the way I found.
   
   
3. Positive mind set : try to have positive mind set, see the positive side of change and never listen to the negative self talk of mind that normally holds you back to be the change. Try to have reminders such as big notes of motivation, a good thoughts which drives you forward.
   
   
4. Get out of comfort zone : to gain something we have to give up something, let us give up our comfort zone for our change. What is change? To get fit you gotta rise early and here you give up couple extra hours you sleep. To become a good writer you gotta read books and start to write in a empty page, here you should give up social media. And so many. Get into discomfort to make a change.
   
   
5. Be bold and have trust :  be a fearless and daring
   enough to change no matter how many people blame you, talk behind you, or pull your legs, or how many times you fail. Never give up on change because it is most important step in your life. Until you won't believe in yourself there no change is going to happen. Trust in yourself and make a bold move.
    
6. Have forgiveness : find forgiveness when you fail at change. Because life is marathon not a sprint. We can't always win. We have to have a mind set of accepting a failure and find compassion.

Keep on trying............................................................................